1
00:00:23,397 --> 00:00:25,870
<i>O God I need you too.</i>

2
00:00:26,622 --> 00:00:29,566
<i>I want to see your face.</i>

3
00:00:29,997 --> 00:00:33,013
<i>It is this love I have</i>

4
00:00:33,434 --> 00:00:36,349
<i>It makes me search for you.</i>

5
00:00:38,427 --> 00:00:41,144
<i>I need you to listen,</i>

6
00:00:41,867 --> 00:00:44,730
<i>I need you to answer.</i>

7
00:00:45,513 --> 00:00:48,176
<i>I need you to listen,</i>

8
00:00:48,329 --> 00:00:52,255
<i>I need you to answer.</i>

9
00:00:53,753 --> 00:00:59,765
<i>Do not avoid my eyes
or let me anger you.</i>

10
00:01:00,212 --> 00:01:03,265
<i>Do not toss me aside.</i>

11
00:01:03,666 --> 00:01:07,118
<i>O God, do not drop me.</i>

12
00:02:34,804 --> 00:02:37,091
Alright you two.
That's enough.

13
00:02:42,177 --> 00:02:43,416
I like her.

14
00:02:43,417 --> 00:02:45,398
I think she likes you.

15
00:02:45,433 --> 00:02:46,780
What tells you that Mum?

16
00:02:49,890 --> 00:02:51,244
Here you go Mum.

17
00:02:59,245 --> 00:03:00,895
This is such a nice day.

18
00:03:00,930 --> 00:03:02,188
Who knows this?

19
00:03:02,391 --> 00:03:03,884
<i>May those who love you,</i>

20
00:03:03,919 --> 00:03:07,230
<i>be like the sun when it rises in its strength.</i>

21
00:03:07,408 --> 00:03:09,528
Corinthians?
Judges 5:31.

22
00:03:11,734 --> 00:03:13,681
So grandma, how old are you again?

23
00:03:13,717 --> 00:03:14,967
Never mind.

24
00:03:15,577 --> 00:03:19,742
You know you shouldn't ask for the age...

25
00:03:20,572 --> 00:03:22,142
That's very nice!

26
00:03:23,983 --> 00:03:26,400
Save some for me, will you?

27
00:03:29,110 --> 00:03:30,378
That's very nice!

28
00:03:30,413 --> 00:03:31,941
Who's that from?

29
00:03:32,243 --> 00:03:33,516
From you and Mary!

30
00:03:34,551 --> 00:03:35,803
Well correct!

31
00:03:36,111 --> 00:03:37,759
I was just testing.

32
00:03:38,633 --> 00:03:41,731
Remember Mum?
We were at the mall

33
00:03:41,744 --> 00:03:43,529
and you said you liked that.

34
00:03:43,564 --> 00:03:45,958
So I went back and I got it for you.

35
00:03:45,993 --> 00:03:48,813
Nancy honey, get me my purse.

36
00:03:48,848 --> 00:03:52,622
Why am I always the one harrased to get the purse?

37
00:03:52,656 --> 00:03:55,456
Youngest Griffith girl's the purse mule.

38
00:03:55,492 --> 00:03:57,489
O Grandma.
Open mine.

39
00:03:57,600 --> 00:04:00,238
Why do I have to be the purse mule?

40
00:04:00,273 --> 00:04:01,524
Ok. Fine.

41
00:04:04,770 --> 00:04:06,412
Yes, I think it suits me.

42
00:04:06,448 --> 00:04:08,076
What do you guys think?

43
00:04:08,112 --> 00:04:10,714
Grandma, that is a lovely shade of lipstick.

44
00:04:10,749 --> 00:04:13,139
Beautiful!
O Ed stop it.

45
00:04:13,169 --> 00:04:14,864
Why? What's wrong Mum?

46
00:04:14,933 --> 00:04:16,268
It's disgusting.

47
00:04:16,467 --> 00:04:21,067
If you ask me,
queers should all be
lined up and shot.

48
00:04:21,491 --> 00:04:23,836
Didn't you say that last year
about the Giants?

49
00:04:23,872 --> 00:04:25,122
What did you say?

50
00:04:26,549 --> 00:04:27,799
Never mind.

51
00:04:28,193 --> 00:04:29,444
What is this?

52
00:04:30,859 --> 00:04:34,571
It's a journal.
Like a diary.
I don't need any more stuff.

53
00:04:38,738 --> 00:04:39,989
Mum!!

54
00:04:40,407 --> 00:04:41,964
- What?
- I'll go.

55
00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:44,542
It's a good thing we didn't
get you the pen.

56
00:04:44,578 --> 00:04:46,302
You can't take it personal.

57
00:04:46,764 --> 00:04:47,906
It's grandma.

58
00:04:47,907 --> 00:04:51,514
You know the rules. Sh'es mean sometimes.
Then we get a free pass to make fun of her.

59
00:04:51,550 --> 00:04:53,344
Bobby, she picks at me.

60
00:04:53,909 --> 00:04:56,628
Nobody ever picks on you. You're the favorite.

61
00:04:58,738 --> 00:05:00,679
So what's it like to be perfect?

62
00:05:01,244 --> 00:05:02,495
I'm perfect?

63
00:05:02,937 --> 00:05:04,377
You think I'm perfect?

64
00:05:04,413 --> 00:05:09,621
Have you looked in a mirror lately?
You're Charlie's next angel, ok?

65
00:05:10,400 --> 00:05:11,867
Can I have it?

66
00:05:12,934 --> 00:05:15,309
You don't want it.
Well, I'm taking it.

67
00:05:15,310 --> 00:05:17,043
I'm gonna fill this up in a week.

68
00:05:18,818 --> 00:05:23,175
Come on. Let's go celebrate grandmas'
39-39 birthday.

69
00:05:33,832 --> 00:05:35,244
I am ready.

70
00:05:36,077 --> 00:05:37,328
What?

71
00:05:37,555 --> 00:05:39,021
I wanna go further.

72
00:05:41,320 --> 00:05:44,613
Is... Is something wrong?
I thought you'd want to...

73
00:05:45,237 --> 00:05:48,452
Here? I mean, this isn't really
what I had in mind.

74
00:05:48,486 --> 00:05:49,977
It doesn't have to be here.

75
00:05:51,833 --> 00:05:53,604
I should go. I have to
get up early tomorrow.

76
00:05:53,640 --> 00:05:54,893
Is something wrong?

77
00:05:55,601 --> 00:05:57,511
I don't think this is gonna work.

78
00:05:57,546 --> 00:05:59,279
I think we should break up.

79
00:06:00,337 --> 00:06:04,612
I thought you liked me... I came
to meet your family.

80
00:06:04,941 --> 00:06:06,992
I just don't want to get that serious.

81
00:06:07,246 --> 00:06:09,532
Well, it doesn't have to be serious, ok?

82
00:06:10,716 --> 00:06:12,171
It's not you, it's me.

83
00:06:12,913 --> 00:06:14,165
I'm sorry.

84
00:06:52,130 --> 00:06:54,242
Hey. You wanna watch with me?

85
00:06:54,899 --> 00:06:56,814
I'm tired.
Oh come on!

86
00:06:56,815 --> 00:06:59,940
Who else can I get to watch
an old black and white movie?

87
00:06:59,975 --> 00:07:03,890
You know if it's not John Wayne,
your dad's not interested.

88
00:07:03,925 --> 00:07:05,348
It's really scary.

89
00:07:08,491 --> 00:07:11,097
You know this scene's famous?
Really?

90
00:07:11,098 --> 00:07:13,599
You know they got that glass of milk to glow?

91
00:07:13,635 --> 00:07:14,506
How?

92
00:07:14,507 --> 00:07:16,604
Well Hitchcock put a lightbulb inside

93
00:07:16,618 --> 00:07:19,428
the glass so the audience would know
the milk was poisonous.

94
00:07:19,453 --> 00:07:20,702
No kidding.

95
00:07:20,962 --> 00:07:22,213
That's clever.

96
00:07:22,805 --> 00:07:24,289
How do you know that?

97
00:07:24,324 --> 00:07:25,869
Cause I'm brilliant.

98
00:07:27,541 --> 00:07:30,149
You are brilliant!
Take it away; I'm eating too much.

99
00:07:31,033 --> 00:07:33,267
I think there's something wrong with me.

100
00:07:33,483 --> 00:07:34,943
That's for sure.

101
00:07:37,712 --> 00:07:40,656
What you think Mum would do if she found out
one of us was a psychoptath?

102
00:07:40,692 --> 00:07:42,538
What you mean "if"?

103
00:07:44,632 --> 00:07:46,493
You know she's always saying...

104
00:07:46,528 --> 00:07:49,574
the whole family's gonna be
together in the afterlife?

105
00:07:49,610 --> 00:07:50,861
Well...

106
00:07:51,452 --> 00:07:53,727
What if one of us is a sinner?

107
00:07:54,272 --> 00:07:57,020
Have you sinned with Michelle ?
I promise I won't tell.

108
00:07:57,021 --> 00:07:58,271
It's not that.

109
00:07:59,363 --> 00:08:02,196
I'm just...
thinking about stuff, you know?

110
00:08:02,231 --> 00:08:03,482
You think too much.

111
00:08:04,420 --> 00:08:07,876
It's dangerous.
That's why I avoid it at all cost.

112
00:08:08,117 --> 00:08:09,163
Yeah?

113
00:08:11,526 --> 00:08:13,951
I'm glad we talked.

114
00:08:14,608 --> 00:08:16,965
Seriously, something... something wrong?

115
00:08:17,001 --> 00:08:18,252
No.

116
00:08:19,749 --> 00:08:24,267
Relax, cause I'm your big bro.
I'm just looking out for you.

117
00:08:50,744 --> 00:08:53,115
What's up Bobby?
Ready to go?

118
00:08:56,021 --> 00:08:58,081
Hey Bobby.
Cheryl.

119
00:08:59,802 --> 00:09:02,305
She's not your type.
Too much eye shadow.

120
00:09:02,306 --> 00:09:04,678
What's wrong with Michelle?

121
00:09:06,236 --> 00:09:07,488
We broke up.

122
00:09:07,569 --> 00:09:09,449
Talk to you guys later.

123
00:09:12,810 --> 00:09:14,396
Not telling the truth...

124
00:09:15,342 --> 00:09:18,515
sometimes I feel like I'm at
the edge of a cliff,

125
00:09:18,550 --> 00:09:21,526
looking down at the crashing surf
with nowhere to go but down.

126
00:09:21,561 --> 00:09:25,530
I used to have these fun dreams
when I was so free.

127
00:09:25,565 --> 00:09:27,388
But now, as I fly,

128
00:09:27,424 --> 00:09:28,675
I'm afraid.

129
00:09:29,523 --> 00:09:32,301
They are telephone lines and
electrical wires.

130
00:09:32,857 --> 00:09:35,515
How painful it would be to run into one.

131
00:09:36,646 --> 00:09:39,818
I wonder if I'll ever be free again.

132
00:10:35,167 --> 00:10:36,419
Hello?

133
00:10:48,239 --> 00:10:51,852
Bobby? Bobby? Hey! Bobby?

134
00:10:51,853 --> 00:10:53,942
What did you do? Ha?

135
00:10:54,560 --> 00:10:58,045
Did you take these? Answer me!
No!
Is that the truth?

136
00:10:58,046 --> 00:11:00,797
I couldn't do it, ok?
Get off me.

137
00:11:02,647 --> 00:11:04,649
I wanted to but I couldn't.

138
00:11:10,365 --> 00:11:11,995
What's wrong with you?

139
00:11:12,047 --> 00:11:13,928
Why I couldn't do it?

140
00:11:16,170 --> 00:11:17,676
Because it's a sin.

141
00:11:20,257 --> 00:11:22,774
Bobby, what are you talking about?

142
00:11:24,221 --> 00:11:27,764
I didn't wanna go to hell, but...
I am.

143
00:11:27,869 --> 00:11:29,432
Cause this is worse.

144
00:11:29,797 --> 00:11:33,375
Bobby, you're scaring me.
What's going on?

145
00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:36,106
You'd all hate me.

146
00:11:36,451 --> 00:11:39,694
I know it. I know that if you guys
knew the truth, you'd hate me.

147
00:11:39,728 --> 00:11:42,101
No. Whatever it is...

148
00:11:42,127 --> 00:11:43,960
we'll tell Mum...
No!

149
00:11:44,401 --> 00:11:47,258
No. Mum wouldn't understand. OK?
She can't know.

150
00:11:47,294 --> 00:11:49,907
Then you have to tell me right now.

151
00:11:54,231 --> 00:11:55,896
I'm not like you Ed.

152
00:11:55,963 --> 00:11:57,214
So what?

153
00:11:57,814 --> 00:11:59,140
I keep trying.

154
00:11:59,176 --> 00:12:04,287
I keep telling myself that one day
I'm gonna wake up and it's gonna
be different. But it's not.

155
00:12:05,747 --> 00:12:07,101
I don't dream...

156
00:12:07,498 --> 00:12:09,251
about girls, like you do.

157
00:12:11,700 --> 00:12:13,411
I dream about guys.

158
00:12:16,555 --> 00:12:18,995
You're gay?!
See?

159
00:12:18,996 --> 00:12:21,341
You even say it like you hate me.

160
00:12:21,890 --> 00:12:24,244
Bob, gimme a break.
I don't know what to do!

161
00:12:24,591 --> 00:12:27,879
-We'll tell Mum and dad.
-No! No.

162
00:12:27,880 --> 00:12:30,485
They can help, Bobby. They always
want us to come to them.

163
00:12:30,521 --> 00:12:33,443
They can help.
I can't! Ok?

164
00:12:34,455 --> 00:12:36,781
And you're not gonna say
anything either.

165
00:12:36,816 --> 00:12:38,067
Promise me.

166
00:12:38,676 --> 00:12:41,152
Promise me you're not gonna
say anything.

167
00:12:43,621 --> 00:12:44,872
Ed, promise!

168
00:12:44,947 --> 00:12:46,197
Ok.

169
00:12:47,229 --> 00:12:48,481
I promise.

170
00:12:53,315 --> 00:12:56,098
Mum, if there was something wrong
with one of your kids, you always

171
00:12:56,121 --> 00:12:58,712
said that we should come to you...

172
00:12:58,739 --> 00:13:00,169
What did you do?

173
00:13:00,231 --> 00:13:02,022
It's not me, it's Bobby.

174
00:13:02,508 --> 00:13:03,758
What is it?

175
00:13:05,876 --> 00:13:08,124
I didn't want to tell you but he was...

176
00:13:08,160 --> 00:13:11,643
in such a bad shape, I'm really
worried about him.

177
00:13:12,103 --> 00:13:13,352
He thinks...

178
00:13:14,866 --> 00:13:16,636
he might be homosexual.

179
00:13:17,988 --> 00:13:19,343
He's not.

180
00:13:21,652 --> 00:13:25,723
He didn't want me to tell you. He was
gonna take a bunch of aspirins.

181
00:13:26,280 --> 00:13:27,532
Ok?

182
00:13:28,034 --> 00:13:29,954
You know... he trusted me, you
can't go too hard on him.

183
00:13:29,979 --> 00:13:31,885
Ok, good. It's good.

184
00:13:32,043 --> 00:13:34,320
I'm glad you told me.

185
00:13:34,356 --> 00:13:37,019
There's no doubt in my mind that
God can handle this.

186
00:13:37,054 --> 00:13:38,583
He'll help us.

187
00:13:38,983 --> 00:13:40,621
He'll heal Bobby.

188
00:13:41,160 --> 00:13:44,384
In order for all of us to be together
in the kingdom of heaven,

189
00:13:44,418 --> 00:13:45,946
we cannot stray.

190
00:13:45,988 --> 00:13:47,503
We can't sin like that.

191
00:13:47,537 --> 00:13:49,104
That is a terrible sin.

192
00:13:49,139 --> 00:13:51,017
The bible calls it an abomination.

193
00:13:51,052 --> 00:13:55,150
In Leviticus, if a man lies with
another man,

194
00:13:55,186 --> 00:13:58,948
they should both be put to death.

195
00:13:58,963 --> 00:14:01,034
I will not raise my family not
being together in the next life.

196
00:14:01,038 --> 00:14:02,828
Mary. Can we please worry about this life
before we worry about the next life?

197
00:14:02,832 --> 00:14:04,834
Hey. What's going on?

198
00:14:05,560 --> 00:14:08,734
Isn't there a problem you need to
tell us about?

199
00:14:09,361 --> 00:14:11,693
-No...
-Bobby

200
00:14:11,764 --> 00:14:15,582
If there is something wrong, you
need to share it with your family.

201
00:14:15,618 --> 00:14:17,091
How could you?

202
00:14:17,471 --> 00:14:18,947
- Bobby...
- I'm gonna kill you!

203
00:14:18,948 --> 00:14:20,514
No!
Ok, ok. Enough!

204
00:14:20,973 --> 00:14:23,546
I was worried about you!

205
00:14:23,560 --> 00:14:25,766
I trusted you!
Calm down!

206
00:14:26,293 --> 00:14:28,689
Hey, Ed. Go find some room.

207
00:14:30,362 --> 00:14:33,055
Bobby, we're your family.
We can get through this.

208
00:14:33,056 --> 00:14:35,764
I know that if we trust in God,
we can get through this.

209
00:14:35,798 --> 00:14:37,633
It's curable with his help.

210
00:14:37,634 --> 00:14:40,199
I'm sorry.
I can't help it.

211
00:14:40,230 --> 00:14:42,741
I don't even want it Mum!
What do I do?

212
00:14:42,760 --> 00:14:44,614
Bobby, you're not gay.

213
00:14:45,992 --> 00:14:47,401
You're probably just...

214
00:14:47,422 --> 00:14:51,162
you haven't met a girl that you're
really attracted to.

215
00:14:51,198 --> 00:14:52,450
Please...

216
00:14:52,700 --> 00:14:54,741
Mum, please don't tell anyone please...

217
00:14:54,776 --> 00:14:58,228
- Mum, please don't tell anyone.
- It's all right.

218
00:14:58,262 --> 00:14:59,735
It's gonna be fine.

219
00:15:07,880 --> 00:15:09,892
I was worried about you.

220
00:15:10,442 --> 00:15:11,969
What was I supposed to do?

221
00:15:13,476 --> 00:15:14,830
I'm out of here.

222
00:15:18,056 --> 00:15:21,179
<i>Thank you again for joining us</i>
<i>I'm pastor Raymond</i>

223
00:15:21,369 --> 00:15:24,673
<i>and we'll take another call,</i>
<i>this is from Melissa in Concord.</i>

224
00:15:25,061 --> 00:15:27,531
<i>Thank you reverend,
I'm a little nervous</i>

225
00:15:27,566 --> 00:15:30,154
<i>My sister made a terrible mistake</i>

226
00:15:30,190 --> 00:15:31,546
<i>she sinned...</i>

227
00:15:32,992 --> 00:15:37,622
I advise you to live according to
your new life in the holy spirit

228
00:15:37,658 --> 00:15:39,294
Then you won't be doing...

229
00:15:39,691 --> 00:15:42,557
what your sinful nature craves.

230
00:15:42,592 --> 00:15:45,394
When the holy spirit controls your life,

231
00:15:45,430 --> 00:15:49,446
it will produce love, joy and kindness,

232
00:15:49,534 --> 00:15:50,993
goodness and self-control.

233
00:15:51,013 --> 00:15:54,045
Does everyone have to know?
We're your family.

234
00:15:54,513 --> 00:15:55,973
We love you.

235
00:15:56,987 --> 00:15:59,050
<i>I am pure of hearts.
I am of god's goodness.</i>

236
00:16:15,499 --> 00:16:17,440
We still love you, Bobby.

237
00:16:17,916 --> 00:16:20,817
Yes, thanks. Can I get some privacy?

238
00:16:27,931 --> 00:16:29,182
Hi Mary!

239
00:16:34,551 --> 00:16:37,220
<i>Everything you always wanted to
know about sex</i>

240
00:16:39,288 --> 00:16:43,201
If a homosexual who wants to renounce to
homosexuality...

241
00:16:43,347 --> 00:16:47,199
finds a psychiastrist who knows
how to cure homosexuality...

242
00:16:47,335 --> 00:16:49,705
he has every chance of becoming...

243
00:16:49,740 --> 00:16:52,467
a happy well adjusted heterosexual.

244
00:17:04,148 --> 00:17:05,564
Do you hear any voices?

245
00:17:07,119 --> 00:17:08,369
No.

246
00:17:10,103 --> 00:17:12,761
Do you ever hear any ringing sounds?

247
00:17:13,203 --> 00:17:14,454
No.

248
00:17:15,405 --> 00:17:16,656
Is that the phone?

249
00:17:22,667 --> 00:17:24,185
It was a joke.

250
00:17:28,752 --> 00:17:30,937
So you think you're a homosexual?

251
00:17:34,310 --> 00:17:36,936
Bobby, how many girls have you
been with?

252
00:17:36,972 --> 00:17:39,230
I don't know. Two.

253
00:17:40,143 --> 00:17:42,507
Had sexual relations with?

254
00:17:46,337 --> 00:17:48,683
Then how do you know for sure?

255
00:17:49,533 --> 00:17:50,784
I just...

256
00:17:51,323 --> 00:17:53,135
have these feelings, you know?

257
00:17:53,170 --> 00:17:56,369
I don't mean you know. I mean...

258
00:17:56,900 --> 00:17:58,661
I have these feelings.

259
00:18:01,087 --> 00:18:03,333
Do you want to be homosexual?

260
00:18:09,262 --> 00:18:11,849
I just wanna be close with my
family again.

261
00:18:11,883 --> 00:18:15,589
I feel like I slipped up and now
I can't...
get back.

262
00:18:15,590 --> 00:18:20,726
I'm not gonna be able to help you... if you don't answer my questions.

263
00:18:23,257 --> 00:18:25,077
No, I don't wanna be this way.

264
00:18:26,666 --> 00:18:30,759
I'm gonna talk with your mother
alone for a minute, ok?

265
00:18:34,532 --> 00:18:36,180
She wants to talk to you.

266
00:18:41,056 --> 00:18:43,118
He can be cured. Right?

267
00:18:45,951 --> 00:18:48,847
He has to be willing to really put
the work in.

268
00:18:48,882 --> 00:18:50,939
O, he is. I know he is.

269
00:18:50,940 --> 00:18:54,173
And I think it would be good, it would
be important to have your husband come

270
00:18:54,192 --> 00:18:57,092
join us in therapy.

271
00:18:58,448 --> 00:18:59,700
Right...

272
00:19:00,644 --> 00:19:01,894
How did it go?

273
00:19:04,556 --> 00:19:07,861
She said we should spend some more time
together.

274
00:19:08,094 --> 00:19:09,667
Maybe the two of you could spend

275
00:19:09,701 --> 00:19:12,150
some quality time together.

276
00:19:12,742 --> 00:19:13,992
Yes, sure.

277
00:19:19,718 --> 00:19:21,740
That's all she said for 60$ an hour?

278
00:19:21,776 --> 00:19:24,974
She also wants the 3 of us to go to
a few sessions together.

279
00:19:25,010 --> 00:19:26,966
What? So it's our fault?

280
00:19:27,167 --> 00:19:29,370
No no... I don't know about it but
it's fine if he goes.

281
00:19:29,406 --> 00:19:32,763
Bob, I want you to be a part of this.
I can't do it alone, ok?

282
00:19:32,799 --> 00:19:36,667
I read that homosexuals have sex
in public bathrooms,

283
00:19:36,702 --> 00:19:38,374
and that they recruit children.

284
00:19:39,546 --> 00:19:41,099
What are you saying?

285
00:19:41,728 --> 00:19:45,176
Do you think Bobby was recruited?
Come on Mary, you're going overboard.

286
00:19:45,211 --> 00:19:49,350
You got to do something about this.
I won't lose him.

287
00:19:53,496 --> 00:19:56,984
Dear lord, we ask that you keep
Bobby safe from temptation.

288
00:19:57,046 --> 00:19:59,225
Please help him return to a pure heart.

289
00:19:59,262 --> 00:20:00,821
Do you think this will heal me?

290
00:20:00,858 --> 00:20:03,249
You have to trust the God will heal you.

291
00:20:03,442 --> 00:20:06,298
And that Satan will try to discourage
you.

292
00:20:06,440 --> 00:20:07,796
Do you trust in god?

293
00:20:08,585 --> 00:20:09,835
Yeah.

294
00:20:10,424 --> 00:20:12,066
Now let me go to sleep.

295
00:20:17,911 --> 00:20:19,913
When temptation is all around you,

296
00:20:20,330 --> 00:20:23,858
faith is not enough.
It requires discipline

297
00:20:24,195 --> 00:20:26,074
Not just mental, but physical.

298
00:20:26,287 --> 00:20:28,886
Who would like to share their story?

299
00:20:30,963 --> 00:20:33,026
I used to be so unhappy.

300
00:20:33,341 --> 00:20:36,160
I stayed out all night,
I talked back to my mother.

301
00:20:36,301 --> 00:20:39,366
Since coming here and accepting Jesus
as my savior,

302
00:20:39,402 --> 00:20:40,654
I've changed..

303
00:20:40,768 --> 00:20:43,073
My Mum and I are like best friends now.

304
00:20:43,108 --> 00:20:44,643
That's great Kerry.

305
00:20:46,167 --> 00:20:48,069
The power of prayer and hard work.

306
00:20:48,105 --> 00:20:50,122
Bobby what about you?
How are you coming along?

307
00:20:54,130 --> 00:20:55,380
Good...

308
00:20:55,563 --> 00:20:58,225
Well, you feel better. Don't you?
I can see it in your eyes.

309
00:20:58,261 --> 00:21:01,228
Your hard works' paid off. Hasn't it?

310
00:21:01,416 --> 00:21:02,667
Yeah...

311
00:21:03,345 --> 00:21:04,866
Let's sing, shall we?

312
00:21:05,502 --> 00:21:09,189
<i></i>

313
00:21:09,791 --> 00:21:13,281
<i></i>

314
00:21:14,137 --> 00:21:19,923
<i></i>

315
00:21:22,090 --> 00:21:25,709
<i></i>

316
00:21:26,408 --> 00:21:29,850
<i></i>

317
00:21:32,934 --> 00:21:36,234
<i></i>

318
00:21:38,745 --> 00:21:41,931
Nothing I do seems to make a difference.

319
00:21:41,949 --> 00:21:45,659
I try to act like them but
it feels impossible.

320
00:21:45,798 --> 00:21:47,777
It's an awful feeling to believe you can

321
00:21:47,779 --> 00:21:50,271
be headed straight for the fires of hell.

322
00:21:50,731 --> 00:21:54,432
Even worse is everyone telling you
how simple the solution is.

323
00:21:54,610 --> 00:21:57,774
They don't know what it is to be
in my shoes.

324
00:21:57,883 --> 00:21:59,806
I'm running, I'm not eating junk food.

325
00:22:00,258 --> 00:22:01,508
Good, good!

326
00:22:02,790 --> 00:22:06,081
Yeah, that's good but...
I don't know the point of it.

327
00:22:06,116 --> 00:22:09,902
I mean, my face has cleared up but
everything else feels the same.

328
00:22:09,937 --> 00:22:13,869
Well you have to stick with it.
Do you like the people in your group?

329
00:22:13,919 --> 00:22:16,342
They're ok.
This one girl, she...

330
00:22:16,343 --> 00:22:18,271
You know, I hope you're taking this
seriously.

331
00:22:18,307 --> 00:22:21,632
I mean that I hope you are trying with
all your might.

332
00:22:21,668 --> 00:22:23,696
I cannot lose you to this.

333
00:22:23,731 --> 00:22:24,983
You won't.

334
00:22:28,983 --> 00:22:30,234
Have faith!

335
00:22:35,247 --> 00:22:36,897
Well this is gonna be fun.

336
00:22:37,366 --> 00:22:42,894
When was the last time all the
Griffith men went hiking together?

337
00:22:42,929 --> 00:22:44,181
So how's school?

338
00:22:47,287 --> 00:22:48,536
Good.

339
00:23:01,426 --> 00:23:03,428
You thought about your plans?

340
00:23:04,491 --> 00:23:06,011
Well college...

341
00:23:06,946 --> 00:23:09,253
No, I mean...
life plans.

342
00:23:10,564 --> 00:23:12,735
Well, I'm still thinking of becoming
a writer.

343
00:23:12,771 --> 00:23:15,835
Listen Bobby, you always had a strong
imagination.

344
00:23:15,836 --> 00:23:19,418
and we've always been alright with that.
But you're getting to the age where
you're gonna have to get practical.

345
00:23:19,453 --> 00:23:20,876
Alright, dreams...

346
00:23:20,926 --> 00:23:23,922
they're great when you're young, but...
they don't really have...

347
00:23:24,947 --> 00:23:27,070
really have a place in the real world.

348
00:23:30,498 --> 00:23:31,750
Yeah.

349
00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:34,958
You hear what I'm saying to you?

350
00:23:34,974 --> 00:23:37,635
-Yeah.
-Alright, alright. Le'ts go, let's move.
Alright.

351
00:23:44,162 --> 00:23:45,413
How did it go?

352
00:23:47,446 --> 00:23:48,905
I'm "healed".

353
00:23:51,979 --> 00:23:53,336
It was fine.

354
00:23:54,276 --> 00:23:55,735
Did you two talk?

355
00:23:56,525 --> 00:23:57,778
Yeah, we talked.

356
00:23:58,987 --> 00:24:00,661
What did you talk about?

357
00:24:01,602 --> 00:24:02,956
Mary, it was fine.

358
00:24:03,347 --> 00:24:05,294
No, but this is important.

359
00:24:05,329 --> 00:24:06,979
This could make him or break him.

360
00:24:07,015 --> 00:24:10,195
I did the best I could.
Is that alright with you?

361
00:24:16,064 --> 00:24:18,834
A lot of times, confusions like Bobby's

362
00:24:18,847 --> 00:24:23,558
can be caused by a distant father or
an overbearing mother.

363
00:24:24,831 --> 00:24:27,288
Well, I had both but I'm fine.

364
00:24:28,958 --> 00:24:30,423
-Bob?
-Yes?

365
00:24:30,424 --> 00:24:32,253
You need to participate in this.

366
00:24:33,210 --> 00:24:36,181
I'm right here Mary. I'm in the room.

367
00:24:37,281 --> 00:24:40,708
I think...
I've been a very good father.

368
00:24:40,725 --> 00:24:43,660
And maybe you don't know this but
Bobby. I mean he was never into...

369
00:24:43,678 --> 00:24:46,234
stuff that his brother and other boys
were into. He's just not interested.

370
00:24:48,736 --> 00:24:50,583
So I'm not gonna force him.

371
00:24:55,595 --> 00:24:57,353
Hi Bobby I'm Sheila.

372
00:25:02,792 --> 00:25:04,302
Mum, who's that?

373
00:25:06,179 --> 00:25:09,404
Sheila is a student in my Sunday
school class.

374
00:25:09,995 --> 00:25:11,466
You got me a date?

375
00:25:11,501 --> 00:25:14,946
You need to go out with lots of girls.
And your dad thinks so too.

376
00:25:14,981 --> 00:25:17,141
Can I at least pick my own?

377
00:25:19,591 --> 00:25:21,359
I donnot think that you are.

378
00:25:22,221 --> 00:25:23,471
Have fun.

379
00:25:23,658 --> 00:25:25,662
You look nifty. Do you want a brownie for energy?

380
00:25:25,936 --> 00:25:27,746
-No
-Take them up! No?!

381
00:25:32,197 --> 00:25:34,122
Hello. Who's this?

382
00:25:34,123 --> 00:25:36,510
That's my brother Ed.
-Hi.
-Hi, I'm Sheila.

383
00:25:36,511 --> 00:25:38,312
-Nice to meet you.
-Nice to meet you too.

384
00:25:38,313 --> 00:25:39,563
Hi.

385
00:25:40,247 --> 00:25:42,999
-Are you up to see my friends?
-Yeah!

386
00:25:47,307 --> 00:25:49,704
So you're never gonna talk to me again?

387
00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:52,460
???

388
00:25:54,541 --> 00:25:56,381
What if she wants me
to kiss her goodnight?

389
00:25:56,416 --> 00:25:57,889
Tell her you're gay.

390
00:26:20,666 --> 00:26:22,020
Watch out fag.

391
00:26:40,328 --> 00:26:42,098
Did you tell your friends?

392
00:26:42,933 --> 00:26:45,752
Bobby, that's not my friend.
You told everyone I'm gay?

393
00:26:45,786 --> 00:26:47,908
I haven't told anyone. Stop being
so paranoid.

394
00:26:47,944 --> 00:26:49,433
You all hate me for it.

395
00:26:49,468 --> 00:26:52,707
I know you don't think I see it but I do.

396
00:26:52,844 --> 00:26:54,187
I gotta go.

397
00:26:54,223 --> 00:26:55,473
Bobby...

398
00:27:03,031 --> 00:27:04,594
It's 3 in the morning!

399
00:27:07,410 --> 00:27:10,110
Sorry I lost track of time.
Where were you?

400
00:27:13,605 --> 00:27:14,856
Bobby...

401
00:27:16,111 --> 00:27:18,890
You weren't with homosexuals, were you?

402
00:27:20,590 --> 00:27:25,106
This is not you.
This is temptation working its ways.

403
00:27:25,141 --> 00:27:29,040
You have to pray harder if you're going to get well.

404
00:27:29,698 --> 00:27:31,054
Good night, Mum.

405
00:27:32,649 --> 00:27:34,830
Pray for forgiveness right away.

406
00:27:35,063 --> 00:27:40,635
<i>If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer. Matthew 21:22</i>

407
00:27:56,027 --> 00:27:57,821
It was fine, girls. But I gotta go.

408
00:27:57,855 --> 00:27:59,107
Ok.

409
00:28:00,087 --> 00:28:01,338
Bobby! Hey!

410
00:28:03,664 --> 00:28:04,788
Where's Joy?

411
00:28:04,789 --> 00:28:08,735
She's at work so she asked me to pick you up.

412
00:28:08,770 --> 00:28:10,021
You're welcome.

413
00:28:10,665 --> 00:28:12,485
- What's with you?
- What?

414
00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:14,542
You think I didn't notice that?
You don't want your friends to see me.

415
00:28:14,544 --> 00:28:16,681
Some people wouldn't understand.

416
00:28:16,716 --> 00:28:18,286
And now it's so obvious...

417
00:28:18,322 --> 00:28:19,912
What did you tell them?

418
00:28:20,336 --> 00:28:22,449
Well look the way you're wearing.

419
00:28:22,595 --> 00:28:26,666
And I told you time after time not to do that thing with your arm.

420
00:28:26,701 --> 00:28:29,956
Makes you look like a girl and you continue to do it.

421
00:28:29,991 --> 00:28:33,615
- I'm always dressed this way.
- No, you haven't. It's gotten worse.

422
00:28:33,651 --> 00:28:36,103
Why you're doing this?
I'm trying to help you.

423
00:28:36,138 --> 00:28:38,795
No, you're not.
You're trying to help YOU!

424
00:28:38,810 --> 00:28:41,126
It's not about me. It's about what people think about you.

425
00:28:41,161 --> 00:28:43,802
Imagine if they thought your son
was some big queer.

426
00:28:43,838 --> 00:28:46,260
What's wrong with you?
Stop that!

427
00:28:47,387 --> 00:28:50,916
Nite Mum. Great.
Le'ts go home!

428
00:28:50,917 --> 00:28:52,643
- I'm walking.
- No!

429
00:28:52,873 --> 00:28:54,229
Where are you going?

430
00:30:01,413 --> 00:30:03,405
I've never seen you around here before.

431
00:30:04,682 --> 00:30:06,189
You are really beautiful.

432
00:30:12,502 --> 00:30:13,752
I gotta go.

433
00:30:13,825 --> 00:30:15,180
Can I call you?

434
00:30:19,619 --> 00:30:20,871
No.

435
00:30:28,489 --> 00:30:31,837
<i>Metropolitan Community Church
celebrates gay pride.</i>

436
00:30:31,851 --> 00:30:33,609
<i>All are welcome</i>

437
00:30:37,878 --> 00:30:39,129
Bobby...

438
00:30:40,212 --> 00:30:42,912
Don't worry. I was at church.

439
00:30:51,273 --> 00:30:52,524
Hi Cousin

440
00:30:52,785 --> 00:30:55,651
I have a name. It's gorgeous cousin.

441
00:30:57,602 --> 00:31:01,083
So, how long you're here for?
Just a day, I'm driving home tonight.

442
00:31:01,147 --> 00:31:05,067
I came to see my dad. But I couldn't resist stopping by.

443
00:31:05,529 --> 00:31:08,374
Maybe it's not a choice.
Maybe I just can't help it.

444
00:31:08,410 --> 00:31:10,805
So you say that stealing's not a choice.

445
00:31:10,841 --> 00:31:14,196
What?
Aunt Mary, lunch is delicious.

446
00:31:14,231 --> 00:31:15,773
Joy's right Bobby.

447
00:31:15,808 --> 00:31:18,922
The bible says:
Men committed shameless acts with men

448
00:31:18,937 --> 00:31:22,560
and received in their own's person the due penalty for their error.

449
00:31:22,797 --> 00:31:24,399
You just won't change, will you?

450
00:31:24,413 --> 00:31:26,150
I can't erase what's in the bible.

451
00:31:26,185 --> 00:31:30,879
Personnally, I think people should be able to love whoever they want.

452
00:31:34,946 --> 00:31:36,793
Did I mention how good lunch is?

453
00:31:37,037 --> 00:31:39,505
Even animals know what to do it with.

454
00:31:40,847 --> 00:31:42,623
Actually, our dog does it with a pillow...

455
00:31:42,658 --> 00:31:46,101
Can we please find something different to discuss?

456
00:31:46,600 --> 00:31:49,467
Ed, why don't you tell us about college?

457
00:31:49,503 --> 00:31:51,944
I dropped school last week.

458
00:31:52,891 --> 00:31:54,142
You what?

459
00:31:56,504 --> 00:31:58,986
Well, what about college?
I'm not going.

460
00:32:00,546 --> 00:32:01,795
Great!

461
00:32:02,442 --> 00:32:03,695
What's next?

462
00:32:04,313 --> 00:32:06,133
You wanna ruin your life?

463
00:32:06,162 --> 00:32:08,274
Yeah well it's my life to ruin.

464
00:32:14,347 --> 00:32:16,937
Is it like this at every meal?

465
00:32:17,099 --> 00:32:18,454
Pretty much.

466
00:32:19,549 --> 00:32:22,570
You should come up and visit me in Portland. It's so great!

467
00:32:22,606 --> 00:32:24,226
I used to envy you..

468
00:32:25,325 --> 00:32:27,154
When I came here with Mum and Dad,

469
00:32:27,155 --> 00:32:29,254
I always wished your parents were my parents.

470
00:32:29,268 --> 00:32:31,339
You all seemed so close.

471
00:32:31,374 --> 00:32:32,730
Well that's over with.

472
00:32:33,919 --> 00:32:35,578
I think they love the sinners. Not the sin.

473
00:32:35,613 --> 00:32:38,701
They should love the son no matter what the sin.

474
00:32:38,702 --> 00:32:39,954
Hey that's good.

475
00:32:40,114 --> 00:32:42,588
I'm gonna start my own bible.

476
00:32:50,087 --> 00:32:51,719
Think about coming to Portland?

477
00:32:55,472 --> 00:32:57,913
Hi Mrs. Griffith! Is Bobby here?

478
00:33:00,806 --> 00:33:04,243
Bobby!
You know it's enough you go God knows where at night.

479
00:33:04,277 --> 00:33:07,292
But now you're bringing these deviants into my house.

480
00:33:07,327 --> 00:33:09,594
It's my house too.
And they're my friends.

481
00:33:09,595 --> 00:33:11,462
Is that what that boy is?

482
00:33:11,497 --> 00:33:13,571
Is it a sin to have friends now too Mum?

483
00:33:13,607 --> 00:33:16,413
We have a good time, ok?
We go to the rocky chore together.

484
00:33:16,414 --> 00:33:19,774
Does it mean we're all gonna get strucked down?
They're gay, aren't they?

485
00:33:20,451 --> 00:33:22,731
I thought you were getting better.
When?

486
00:33:22,732 --> 00:33:25,737
When I was miserable?
That looked like I was getting better?

487
00:33:25,772 --> 00:33:27,862
You're right Mum!
I'm doomed just to roast in hell!

488
00:33:27,877 --> 00:33:29,955
Don't say that.
That's what your bible says!

489
00:33:29,990 --> 00:33:32,058
The bible also says a person can change.

490
00:33:32,093 --> 00:33:33,998
I tried Mum. I can't!

491
00:33:34,612 --> 00:33:36,700
Why do you keep choosing this?

492
00:33:36,734 --> 00:33:38,689
Why would I choose this?

493
00:33:38,725 --> 00:33:40,553
Why would I choose to have my entire family hate me?

494
00:33:40,587 --> 00:33:43,653
No we love you. Can't you see that's why we're doing this?

495
00:33:43,689 --> 00:33:46,272
Really Mum? Is that what love feels like?

496
00:33:51,743 --> 00:33:53,339
Have fun in Portland.

497
00:33:54,821 --> 00:33:56,640
Here's an issue for your vacation.

498
00:33:56,758 --> 00:33:59,198
I hope you like it.

499
00:34:01,255 --> 00:34:03,924
Promise me you'll write and call all the time?

500
00:34:04,233 --> 00:34:05,692
It's two months.

501
00:34:07,648 --> 00:34:08,983
Drive carefully.

502
00:34:09,019 --> 00:34:10,693
Don't worry Madam.

503
00:34:12,339 --> 00:34:14,766
You call me when you get to Portland.

504
00:34:15,356 --> 00:34:18,184
I had this engraved with your initials.

505
00:34:31,367 --> 00:34:32,722
I love you guys.

506
00:34:39,306 --> 00:34:40,557
Bye Bobby.

507
00:34:52,046 --> 00:34:55,091
Already I'm glad to be away from Walnut Creek.

508
00:34:55,125 --> 00:34:56,615
This feels like a new life.

509
00:34:57,035 --> 00:34:58,286
A new day.

510
00:34:58,359 --> 00:35:01,786
I'm gonna be a success in every way I can.

511
00:35:01,822 --> 00:35:03,504
It's my goal to achieve,

512
00:35:03,540 --> 00:35:05,127
a sense of pride,

513
00:35:05,163 --> 00:35:07,119
and worth as a human being.

514
00:35:17,324 --> 00:35:18,681
Gorgeous cousin.

515
00:35:24,207 --> 00:35:25,684
Welcome to Portland!

516
00:35:43,463 --> 00:35:46,835
Trust me...
You don't find clubs like this back home.

517
00:35:46,871 --> 00:35:48,124
I'll see.

518
00:36:00,138 --> 00:36:02,025
Welcome to London House cousin.

519
00:36:02,059 --> 00:36:03,311
This is amazing!

520
00:36:03,509 --> 00:36:04,864
Let's go boogie.

521
00:36:27,028 --> 00:36:29,396
David!
Janette!

522
00:36:31,600 --> 00:36:33,531
This is my cousin Bobby.

523
00:36:35,590 --> 00:36:38,258
Nice to finally meet you Bobby!

524
00:37:10,351 --> 00:37:14,789
So Janette tells me your Mum wants to cure you of your gayness.

525
00:37:14,824 --> 00:37:16,075
Yeah, well...

526
00:37:16,080 --> 00:37:18,153
My parents don't really understand it.

527
00:37:18,189 --> 00:37:21,161
Do yours?
They didn't first.

528
00:37:21,162 --> 00:37:23,573
But, they eventually came around.

529
00:37:23,609 --> 00:37:25,626
How did you get them to change?

530
00:37:26,114 --> 00:37:30,850
Well, one day,
I told them «Accept me as I am, or forget me!»

531
00:37:33,050 --> 00:37:36,153
I know my Mum means well but I don't know if she'll ever accept me.

532
00:37:36,864 --> 00:37:39,319
Just don't stop trying.

533
00:37:41,435 --> 00:37:43,376
<i>Now that you know</i>

534
00:37:50,655 --> 00:37:54,391
<i>What every parent should know about homosexuality</i>

535
00:38:22,944 --> 00:38:24,714
Have a great trip.

536
00:38:25,896 --> 00:38:28,008
Don't let her get to you.

537
00:38:28,357 --> 00:38:30,762
And don't be afraid to stand up to her.

538
00:38:43,328 --> 00:38:44,683
Too much flew by fast.

539
00:38:50,712 --> 00:38:52,776
I'll call you when I get home.

540
00:38:53,229 --> 00:38:54,625
You'd better.

541
00:38:59,037 --> 00:39:00,488
Well. Look who's home.

542
00:39:00,524 --> 00:39:02,458
-Hey Dad.
-Hey, come here, come here.

543
00:39:03,872 --> 00:39:06,106
Just in time for dinner. Come on in.

544
00:39:07,146 --> 00:39:08,677
That's funny.

545
00:39:09,274 --> 00:39:11,503
So how was Portland?
Yeah...

546
00:39:11,702 --> 00:39:13,727
Portland was great.
Good!

547
00:39:13,728 --> 00:39:17,600
I'm thinking of maybe moving there for a little bit.

548
00:39:17,621 --> 00:39:19,989
Moving there?
I met someone...

549
00:39:24,806 --> 00:39:26,053
A guy.

550
00:39:29,718 --> 00:39:30,968
Girls...

551
00:39:31,377 --> 00:39:33,319
Give me a hand with this.

552
00:39:35,574 --> 00:39:37,744
We're supposed to pretend we didn't hear that?

553
00:39:37,779 --> 00:39:39,031
Yes.

554
00:39:39,176 --> 00:39:40,428
Bobby...

555
00:39:40,794 --> 00:39:43,340
This might not have been the right time.

556
00:39:43,376 --> 00:39:44,627
I know.

557
00:39:44,642 --> 00:39:45,894
I'm sorry..

558
00:39:50,622 --> 00:39:53,258
You should start thinking about college for next fall.

559
00:39:53,294 --> 00:39:54,787
You need to get your GED first.

560
00:39:54,822 --> 00:39:57,804
I mean...
it's ok to take some time off but...

561
00:39:57,840 --> 00:40:00,373
Did you hear me?
I don't wanna know.

562
00:40:00,374 --> 00:40:04,243
I want you to know.
His name's David.

563
00:40:04,244 --> 00:40:09,007
We always start at the beginning every time and if we're not getting any more different let's just not go there.

564
00:40:09,043 --> 00:40:11,652
When I'm with him,
it feels so...

565
00:40:11,779 --> 00:40:13,030
good!

566
00:40:13,515 --> 00:40:15,077
He treats me well...

567
00:40:15,248 --> 00:40:17,432
he's funny and he's smart...

568
00:40:17,435 --> 00:40:20,314
Stop. I mean it. I don't wanna hear it.
And you know I don't.

569
00:40:20,349 --> 00:40:24,517
I spent the last year listening to you and you're gonna listen to me for once.

570
00:40:24,553 --> 00:40:26,901
It feels good when I'm with David.

571
00:40:26,937 --> 00:40:30,569
But if he touches me in public,
or God forbids, kisses me,

572
00:40:32,039 --> 00:40:33,395
I pull away.

573
00:40:34,023 --> 00:40:36,245
I feel ashame.
Because you know it's wrong.

574
00:40:36,281 --> 00:40:39,763
-Because YOU told me it's wrong.
-It's not me. It's the bible.

575
00:40:39,798 --> 00:40:41,616
It's not the bible. It's you!

576
00:40:42,128 --> 00:40:43,775
Why can't you admit that?

577
00:40:43,983 --> 00:40:47,004
Why can't you admit that you can't stand what I am?

578
00:40:47,040 --> 00:40:48,348
What you've become!

579
00:40:48,384 --> 00:40:49,738
What I am!

580
00:40:50,917 --> 00:40:54,591
I'm sorry. I'm not the perfect little Bobby you always wanted.

581
00:40:54,627 --> 00:40:57,076
But I can't keep apologizing for it Mum.

582
00:40:57,111 --> 00:40:59,173
Accept me as I am or forget it.

583
00:40:59,207 --> 00:41:01,041
I won't have a gay son.

584
00:41:02,925 --> 00:41:05,040
Then Mum you don't have a son.

585
00:41:05,462 --> 00:41:06,714
Fine.

586
00:41:14,664 --> 00:41:15,916
Bobby...

587
00:41:27,289 --> 00:41:29,826
Did you really think she'd change, Bobby?

588
00:41:33,170 --> 00:41:34,526
She meant it.

589
00:41:36,760 --> 00:41:38,408
She meant that.

590
00:41:42,091 --> 00:41:44,558
I really want you to be happy.

591
00:41:46,168 --> 00:41:49,271
And I'm sure that guy's really nice.

592
00:41:49,999 --> 00:41:52,990
No matter what. She'll never accept it.

593
00:41:53,738 --> 00:41:57,774
It's gonna be a lonely life because he'll never be welcome here.

594
00:41:57,809 --> 00:42:01,058
And for Christmas, Thanksgiving, anything.

595
00:42:10,948 --> 00:42:14,577
Don't worry about Mum too much. She'll come around.

596
00:42:14,612 --> 00:42:16,639
I'm not gonna hold my breath.

597
00:42:18,280 --> 00:42:19,529
Here you go.

598
00:42:21,396 --> 00:42:23,037
The parachute pants!

599
00:42:25,741 --> 00:42:26,992
Thanks.

600
00:42:29,792 --> 00:42:33,440
I'll send you my first novel when I write it.

601
00:42:36,252 --> 00:42:37,503
Bye Buck-Tooth!

602
00:42:38,814 --> 00:42:40,168
Take care, ok?

603
00:42:42,018 --> 00:42:43,374
Drive safe.

604
00:43:39,878 --> 00:43:43,007
<i>... most of the new cases up to 5 a day seem to be settled in the homosexual community...</i>

605
00:43:44,720 --> 00:43:48,675
<i>The AIDS becoming known as «the gay disease».</i>

606
00:44:02,359 --> 00:44:03,611
Well...

607
00:44:03,655 --> 00:44:07,216
your Mum went alot for your birthday.

608
00:44:07,252 --> 00:44:11,770
No card.
A sweater and "AIDS - The Wrath of God".

609
00:44:12,107 --> 00:44:13,359
Whoah.

610
00:44:13,877 --> 00:44:15,333
Happy birthday!

611
00:44:15,392 --> 00:44:18,625
You can't expect anything different from her, Bobby.

612
00:44:18,661 --> 00:44:20,074
She's not gonna change.

613
00:44:20,256 --> 00:44:23,985
Birthdays were always a big deal for all of us.

614
00:44:24,021 --> 00:44:26,037
I'm just not in the «all of us» anymore.

615
00:44:27,066 --> 00:44:29,834
Can't get that throughout my head.

616
00:44:32,886 --> 00:44:34,136
There's David.

617
00:44:35,187 --> 00:44:36,542
Talk to you later.

618
00:44:47,359 --> 00:44:50,511
You sure this is ok?
They're gonna love you.

619
00:44:54,158 --> 00:44:55,409
Let's go.

620
00:44:55,787 --> 00:44:58,204
Dad, do you have to tell that story?

621
00:44:58,240 --> 00:44:59,974
Hey, I felt I had to.

622
00:45:00,009 --> 00:45:04,830
Yes. And I've got about a dozen more where that came from if you're interested.

623
00:45:04,865 --> 00:45:06,245
Oh, oh no thanks.

624
00:45:07,753 --> 00:45:10,478
So Bobby...
tell us more about you.

625
00:45:10,513 --> 00:45:12,385
You grew up in Walnut Creek, right?

626
00:45:12,419 --> 00:45:14,987
David says you're very close to your family.
Yeah.

627
00:45:14,988 --> 00:45:18,687
So how are your parents with you being gay?

628
00:45:18,722 --> 00:45:19,974
Not good.

629
00:45:20,533 --> 00:45:24,328
Well...
Maybe it's hard for them at first.

630
00:45:24,329 --> 00:45:29,238
They'll come around.
You seem like a wonderful young man.
I'm sure they love you.

631
00:45:29,304 --> 00:45:32,641
Hey!
- Cheers to that!
- Cheers to that!

632
00:45:32,676 --> 00:45:34,529
It's great to meet you Bobby.

633
00:45:34,864 --> 00:45:36,788
So how did you guys meet?

634
00:45:36,823 --> 00:45:38,298
You know Janette?...

635
00:45:42,927 --> 00:45:44,178
<i>It's a sin.</i>

636
00:45:44,225 --> 00:45:45,475
<i>It's not natural.</i>

637
00:45:49,012 --> 00:45:53,309
<i>He'll never be welcome here.</i>
<i>Why do you keep choosing this?</i>

638
00:45:53,345 --> 00:45:55,019
<i>Sometimes I hurt so bad...<i>

639
00:45:55,670 --> 00:45:57,501
<i>And I'm scared and I'm alone.<i></i>

640
00:45:58,576 --> 00:46:01,395
<i>I'm sure they love you.</i>

641
00:46:01,668 --> 00:46:02,973
<i>I'm damned.</i>

642
00:46:07,024 --> 00:46:10,354
I'm slowly sinking in a vast lake of quick sand.

643
00:46:10,389 --> 00:46:11,906
A bottomless pool.

644
00:46:13,012 --> 00:46:16,270
I wish I could crawl under a rock and sleep forever.

645
00:46:29,148 --> 00:46:31,629
You've reached David.

646
00:46:31,646 --> 00:46:34,340
I'm not here right now but if you leave a message after the beep, I'll get right back to you.

647
00:46:34,376 --> 00:46:35,625
Have a good one...

648
00:46:37,362 --> 00:46:38,938
Hey David it's Bobby.

649
00:46:41,659 --> 00:46:43,244
I thought you'd be there.

650
00:46:44,546 --> 00:46:45,796
Look I'm...

651
00:46:46,973 --> 00:46:49,260
I really need someone to talk to and I was hoping you'd be there.

652
00:46:49,277 --> 00:46:51,366
Please,

653
00:46:54,963 --> 00:46:57,396
dear lord,

654
00:46:57,752 --> 00:47:01,220
continue to convict Bobby's heart off sin.

655
00:47:18,882 --> 00:47:20,549
That he may find his way

656
00:47:20,892 --> 00:47:22,358
The way of purity,

657
00:47:22,489 --> 00:47:23,948
the way of the righteous.

658
00:48:08,457 --> 00:48:09,707
<i>It's a sin.</i>

659
00:48:09,760 --> 00:48:11,010
<i>It's not natural.</i>

660
00:49:01,695 --> 00:49:03,916
<i>I won't have a gay son.</i>

661
00:49:13,725 --> 00:49:15,019
You're gonna be late for school.

662
00:49:15,053 --> 00:49:16,561
You're the one who slept in.

663
00:49:16,597 --> 00:49:19,364
Ok, then we're both gonna be late for school.

664
00:49:19,399 --> 00:49:21,532
Meet you in the car.

665
00:49:21,717 --> 00:49:22,968
- OK!
- Hello?

666
00:49:25,078 --> 00:49:26,664
Janette, what's wrong?

667
00:49:30,777 --> 00:49:32,026
No...

668
00:49:33,251 --> 00:49:35,434
What's wrong?
No...

669
00:49:35,832 --> 00:49:37,993
What's wrong?
Nancy, get out of here!

670
00:49:38,624 --> 00:49:39,875
Dad!

671
00:49:41,023 --> 00:49:42,272
Daddy...

672
00:49:45,240 --> 00:49:46,492
Hello.

673
00:49:47,766 --> 00:49:49,018
Hi. Hi, Janette...

674
00:49:50,674 --> 00:49:55,617
Mary, you've been called up front and he said to bring your purse.

675
00:49:55,675 --> 00:49:57,569
Probably one of the kids that needs money again.

676
00:49:59,636 --> 00:50:01,810
I need a break anyway.
Bye.

677
00:50:24,338 --> 00:50:25,589
What is it?

678
00:50:28,412 --> 00:50:29,871
Bobby killed himself.

679
00:50:34,535 --> 00:50:36,181
He jumped off a bridge.

680
00:50:37,275 --> 00:50:38,526
He... He's gone.

681
00:50:44,125 --> 00:50:45,374
Help me!

682
00:50:50,019 --> 00:50:51,268
Help me!!

683
00:50:51,890 --> 00:50:54,418
My son is dead!
Let me out!

684
00:50:55,036 --> 00:50:56,391
Let me out!

685
00:50:56,711 --> 00:50:59,237
My son is dead!
Let me out!

686
00:51:10,214 --> 00:51:12,267
Joy, slow down. What's wrong?

687
00:52:12,820 --> 00:52:14,071
Thank you.

688
00:52:29,015 --> 00:52:32,109
Death of a loved one is always tragic

689
00:52:32,145 --> 00:52:35,758
But the death of a young person can be particularly painful.

690
00:52:35,794 --> 00:52:39,143
Because that person had his whole life ahead of him.

691
00:52:39,178 --> 00:52:41,085
Bobby was only 20 years old.

692
00:52:41,358 --> 00:52:43,773
We'll never know who he could have been.

693
00:52:43,792 --> 00:52:45,962
Or what he could have accomplished.

694
00:52:45,998 --> 00:52:49,075
Bobby was a good young man but he was lost.

695
00:52:50,457 --> 00:52:53,591
By giving into temptation, he strayed.

696
00:52:54,508 --> 00:52:56,594
Then desillusioned,

697
00:52:58,303 --> 00:53:00,537
he chose to end his life.

698
00:53:01,223 --> 00:53:03,945
Now we know to condemn the sin,

699
00:53:03,981 --> 00:53:05,335
not the sinner,

700
00:53:06,560 --> 00:53:09,209
it was this sin that Bobby succombed to.

701
00:53:10,377 --> 00:53:12,510
It led to his unhappiness.

702
00:53:12,843 --> 00:53:14,093
And it led him

703
00:53:14,841 --> 00:53:17,186
to take his own life.

704
00:53:18,468 --> 00:53:20,729
As goodness begets goodness,

705
00:53:20,764 --> 00:53:23,146
so does sin begets sin.

706
00:53:24,049 --> 00:53:26,017
They're ok with this?

707
00:53:54,053 --> 00:53:55,777
They're running low on sandwiches.

708
00:53:55,812 --> 00:53:58,820
Mum, do you think Bobby got salvation?

709
00:53:58,856 --> 00:54:00,107
I don't know.

710
00:54:00,451 --> 00:54:02,149
Suicide is a sin.

711
00:54:02,366 --> 00:54:05,874
But maybe God knows that Bobby wasn't in his right mind?.

712
00:54:05,910 --> 00:54:08,812
I mean...

713
00:54:08,834 --> 00:54:10,897
Why would God allow Booby to go to hell if it was in his power to cure him?

714
00:54:10,932 --> 00:54:12,390
I don't know Mary!

715
00:54:12,911 --> 00:54:14,266
Clear yourself together.

716
00:54:15,060 --> 00:54:18,618
People are unconfortable enough.

717
00:54:25,884 --> 00:54:27,239
Thank for coming.

718
00:54:28,263 --> 00:54:30,386
I'm so sorry for your loss.

719
00:54:36,975 --> 00:54:38,925
Mrs Griffith. Mr. Griffith..

720
00:54:40,267 --> 00:54:41,623
I'm David.

721
00:54:42,473 --> 00:54:43,984
I was a friend of Bobby's.

722
00:54:46,700 --> 00:54:49,308
I wanna offer my condolences.

723
00:55:05,733 --> 00:55:07,773
He was an amazing young man.

724
00:55:15,189 --> 00:55:16,440
I'm so sorry.

725
00:55:39,241 --> 00:55:40,493
Aunt Mary...

726
00:55:41,084 --> 00:55:42,783
David is a good person.

727
00:55:43,051 --> 00:55:45,163
All of Bobby's friends were.

728
00:55:45,987 --> 00:55:48,761
When Bobby was here, he was under control.

729
00:55:48,797 --> 00:55:51,644
Then he moves to Portland and someone puts all these ideas into his head.

730
00:55:51,679 --> 00:55:54,362
It wasn't like that.
David cared for Bobby.

731
00:55:54,397 --> 00:55:57,234
We're his family.
We know how to help me,

732
00:55:57,269 --> 00:55:59,099
he wanted to change, to be closer to god.

733
00:55:59,134 --> 00:56:00,394
To be closer to YOU!

734
00:56:00,429 --> 00:56:04,668
Then he went further and further into that life style and he couldn't get out.

735
00:56:04,703 --> 00:56:07,487
Do you believe everything they tell you in church?

736
00:56:07,523 --> 00:56:09,867
I know you and uncle Bob meant with that serment...

737
00:56:09,902 --> 00:56:12,582
Bobby knew the repercussions about homosexual lifestyle.

738
00:56:12,618 --> 00:56:15,632
Bobby was good, descent and kind.

739
00:56:16,553 --> 00:56:21,662
Someone who didn't even know Bobby stood up there and condemned him, and you let him.

740
00:56:21,698 --> 00:56:24,408
Bobby did everything he could to make himself acceptable to you.

741
00:56:24,444 --> 00:56:28,936
He was so good, and bright, and funny. He should be praised.

742
00:56:30,372 --> 00:56:33,376
I'm sorry you can't see it that way.

743
00:56:33,419 --> 00:56:35,169
Maybe you should go.

744
00:56:35,830 --> 00:56:37,081
Fine.

745
00:56:37,790 --> 00:56:40,733
I left Bobby's things in his room.

746
00:57:28,905 --> 00:57:30,156
Bobby!

747
00:57:30,319 --> 00:57:31,569
Hey Mum!

748
00:57:32,711 --> 00:57:34,885
Don't you ever do that again!

749
00:57:35,572 --> 00:57:37,349
I knew it wasn't true.

750
00:57:37,385 --> 00:57:39,834
I knew God would bring you back to me.

751
00:57:39,868 --> 00:57:41,949
Mum, you worry too much.

752
00:58:18,840 --> 00:58:21,842
<i>I'm slowly sinking in a vast lake of quick sands.</i>

753
00:58:21,876 --> 00:58:23,367
<i>A bottomless pool.</i>

754
00:58:23,504 --> 00:58:27,385
<i>I wish I could crawl under a rock and sleep forever.</i>

755
00:58:27,420 --> 00:58:28,922
<i>Noone understands me.</i>

756
00:58:29,447 --> 00:58:32,163
<i>Noone in this house can accept my side of the story.</i>

757
00:58:32,199 --> 00:58:35,019
<i>I can feel god's eyes looking down on me with pity.</i>

758
00:58:35,055 --> 00:58:37,729
<i>I can't never let anyone find out I'm not straight.</i>

759
00:58:37,765 --> 00:58:39,509
<i>It would be so humiliating...</i>

760
00:58:39,766 --> 00:58:41,401
<i>My friends would hate me.</i>

761
00:58:41,437 --> 00:58:42,877
<i>and my family...</i>

762
00:58:42,913 --> 00:58:43,750
Mum.

763
00:58:43,751 --> 00:58:45,279
<i>I've overheard them.</i>

764
00:58:45,505 --> 00:58:46,757
Thank you.

765
00:58:46,966 --> 00:58:48,644
<i>They've said that they hate gays.</i>

766
00:58:48,679 --> 00:58:50,758
<i>And even God hates gays.</i>

767
00:58:51,838 --> 00:58:56,025
<i>It really scares me when they talk that way because now they are talking about me.</i>

768
00:58:56,060 --> 00:58:57,938
<i>I don't wanna choose sin.</i>

769
00:58:57,974 --> 00:58:59,225
<i>I don't.</i>

770
00:58:59,661 --> 00:59:02,466
<i>I'm so mad and frustrated god...</i>

771
00:59:02,501 --> 00:59:05,176
<i>I seem to be at the end of the road.</i>

772
00:59:05,196 --> 00:59:07,140
<i>Why do you remain silent?</i>

773
00:59:08,631 --> 00:59:09,883
<i>May 30th.</i>

774
00:59:10,048 --> 00:59:12,231
<i>Memorial Day Barbecue.</i>

775
00:59:12,294 --> 00:59:13,546
<i>Had fun.</i>

776
00:59:13,838 --> 00:59:16,127
<i>Mum was sweet and funny self.</i>

777
00:59:16,163 --> 00:59:17,773
<i>Like the old Mum...</i>

778
00:59:18,115 --> 00:59:20,845
<i>For a second it felt like the old days.</i>

779
00:59:20,879 --> 00:59:23,157
<i>She smiled at something I said,</i>

780
00:59:23,193 --> 00:59:25,686
<i>and I saw on her eyes that for a second she forgot what she really thinks of me.</i>

781
00:59:28,299 --> 00:59:30,429
<i>The anger never erupts.</i>

782
00:59:30,464 --> 00:59:35,402
<i>My timid nature would never allow a full fledged thunderstorm to occur.</i>

783
00:59:35,436 --> 00:59:37,464
<i>But it's there, on the horizon.</i>

784
00:59:38,255 --> 00:59:41,887
<i>I can feel god's eyes looking down on me with such pity.</i>

785
00:59:41,923 --> 00:59:43,750
<i>He can't help me though.</i>

786
00:59:43,752 --> 00:59:47,064
<i>Because I've chosen sin over righteousness.</i>

787
01:00:13,797 --> 01:00:15,047
Excuse me.

788
01:00:15,403 --> 01:00:16,655
You alright Ed?

789
01:00:16,804 --> 01:00:20,312
Oh yeah, I'm fantastic.
I think we all are. Isn't that obvious?

790
01:00:20,348 --> 01:00:23,366
Ed. We have to deal with this as a family.

791
01:00:23,630 --> 01:00:26,794
That was your answer for Bobby too but it didn't work.

792
01:00:26,830 --> 01:00:28,080
Damned!

793
01:00:29,059 --> 01:00:30,310
I'll go. I'll go.

794
01:00:30,482 --> 01:00:31,732
Excuse me.

795
01:00:36,835 --> 01:00:38,086
Come, Nancy.

796
01:01:07,598 --> 01:01:10,833
You wanna get out of here, maybe go for a beer?

797
01:01:18,779 --> 01:01:21,477
Did he even think about what he would do to us?

798
01:01:22,966 --> 01:01:24,491
He could have called...

799
01:01:25,186 --> 01:01:26,437
or something but...

800
01:01:27,726 --> 01:01:29,974
not just screw us, right?
Ed...

801
01:01:29,975 --> 01:01:33,695
Nothing no! No goodbye, no note, nothing. Just...

802
01:01:38,380 --> 01:01:39,734
I'm sorry Bobby.

803
01:01:41,010 --> 01:01:42,261
I'm sorry.

804
01:01:43,915 --> 01:01:45,313
Are you happy now?

805
01:01:45,589 --> 01:01:46,945
I'm sorry Bobby.

806
01:01:47,781 --> 01:01:49,178
Are you happy now?

807
01:01:50,047 --> 01:01:51,298
Ed...

808
01:01:53,598 --> 01:01:55,095
It's not your fault.

809
01:02:09,742 --> 01:02:12,098
There must be other Bobbys out there.

810
01:02:13,509 --> 01:02:17,510
Other young gay people who may be thinking of taking their lives.

811
01:02:18,618 --> 01:02:20,612
Does the church reach out to them?

812
01:02:23,099 --> 01:02:25,272
They are other churches that do that.

813
01:02:26,435 --> 01:02:31,792
Reverend Joseph asked us to tell you how sorry he is for your loss.

814
01:02:32,304 --> 01:02:35,000
We can come back in a couple of weeks and check in on your f...

815
01:02:35,003 --> 01:02:36,857
You don't understand, are you...

816
01:02:40,870 --> 01:02:42,799
I don't know what to do.

817
01:02:44,413 --> 01:02:47,597
I need to make peace with this and I can't.

818
01:02:49,532 --> 01:02:53,818
The lord says the impure will be thrown into the lake of fire.

819
01:02:55,553 --> 01:02:57,833
Bobby...
sinned!

820
01:02:57,834 --> 01:02:59,696
But he was pure of heart.

821
01:03:00,613 --> 01:03:03,162
He'd never knowingly hurt anyone.

822
01:03:05,544 --> 01:03:06,795
Is that enough?

823
01:03:13,170 --> 01:03:14,422
Is it?

824
01:03:19,707 --> 01:03:20,959
Dear god,

825
01:03:21,504 --> 01:03:24,738
my relationship to you leaves something to be desired.

826
01:03:25,826 --> 01:03:27,438
I have never asked of you,

827
01:03:27,591 --> 01:03:29,715
only given, as I was told.

828
01:03:30,191 --> 01:03:32,970
Your holy spirit has taught me so much...

829
01:03:33,172 --> 01:03:35,758
But now there's more I need to know.

830
01:03:42,996 --> 01:03:44,247
Hey!

831
01:03:49,106 --> 01:03:50,357
I can't.

832
01:03:53,506 --> 01:03:54,758
Ok.

833
01:04:03,370 --> 01:04:05,424
I think I'm gonna sleep in the living room.

834
01:04:52,977 --> 01:04:54,227
Reverend?

835
01:04:54,504 --> 01:04:55,753
Mary Griffith.

836
01:04:55,758 --> 01:04:57,382
Nice to have you with us, Mary.

837
01:04:57,418 --> 01:04:58,669
The bible...

838
01:04:59,382 --> 01:05:03,540
it says that homosexuality is a sin punishable by death. Do you believe that?

839
01:05:03,576 --> 01:05:06,976
There are other interpretations of the bible, Mrs Griffith.

840
01:05:07,158 --> 01:05:08,389
My son...

841
01:05:08,390 --> 01:05:09,641
was gay...

842
01:05:09,759 --> 01:05:11,009
and he killed himself.

843
01:05:12,560 --> 01:05:14,970
Is there an other interpretation of that?

844
01:05:17,430 --> 01:05:18,681
I'm sorry.

845
01:05:23,139 --> 01:05:24,777
What was his name?

846
01:05:26,479 --> 01:05:27,732
Bobby.

847
01:05:28,179 --> 01:05:29,431
Bobby Griffith.

848
01:05:32,031 --> 01:05:33,996
I saw him here a couple of times.

849
01:05:34,030 --> 01:05:35,282
My Bobby?

850
01:05:35,823 --> 01:05:38,238
He always sat way in the back.

851
01:05:38,726 --> 01:05:40,253
He stopped coming.

852
01:05:41,512 --> 01:05:42,763
I am so sorry.

853
01:05:43,076 --> 01:05:45,898
You must be...
I need answers.

854
01:05:46,175 --> 01:05:48,175
I need to know where he is.

855
01:05:48,569 --> 01:05:51,582
Is homosexuality an unforgivable sin?

856
01:05:51,949 --> 01:05:53,586
Leviticus, 18:22 says:

857
01:05:54,524 --> 01:05:58,157
«If a man lies with another man, it is an abomination.»

858
01:05:58,192 --> 01:06:02,246
An abomination, in that time, didn't mean sin. It meant unclean.

859
01:06:02,281 --> 01:06:06,171
Leviticus also goes on to
say eating shellfish is an abomination.

860
01:06:06,206 --> 01:06:08,048
Or mixing fabrics...

861
01:06:08,084 --> 01:06:09,544
Leviticus 20:13

862
01:06:10,065 --> 01:06:13,104
«If a man lies with another man, they both should be put to death.»

863
01:06:13,139 --> 01:06:15,867
And then he says the same thing about an adultere,

864
01:06:15,890 --> 01:06:18,682
or a child that disobeys their parents.

865
01:06:18,822 --> 01:06:22,109
And we certainly don't interpret that scripture litteraly.

866
01:06:22,144 --> 01:06:23,464
In Deuteronomy 22,

867
01:06:23,475 --> 01:06:25,875
«If a woman is not a virgin on her wedding day,

868
01:06:25,911 --> 01:06:29,919
she should be taken to her father's house and stoned to death.»

869
01:06:30,306 --> 01:06:33,593
So what do you tell people who come here?

870
01:06:33,702 --> 01:06:34,953
Gay people...

871
01:06:35,799 --> 01:06:37,984
That homosexuality is ok?

872
01:06:38,020 --> 01:06:40,589
That it is permissible in god's eyes?

873
01:06:40,625 --> 01:06:42,600
I tell them what I believe to be the truth:

874
01:06:42,636 --> 01:06:44,418
that God loves them as they are.

875
01:06:45,340 --> 01:06:47,212
God's vengeance is great.

876
01:06:47,248 --> 01:06:49,031
So is his compassion.

877
01:06:49,142 --> 01:06:52,864
You shouldn't teach them
that homoseuxality is ok.

878
01:06:52,900 --> 01:06:54,785
That's not what the bible says.

879
01:06:55,128 --> 01:06:56,836
It just confuses them more.

880
01:06:57,042 --> 01:07:00,368
Mrs Griffith,
if you'd like to come back during the week and talk,

881
01:07:00,404 --> 01:07:03,295
my door is open,
but not to be blamed.

882
01:07:03,702 --> 01:07:04,954
ok?

883
01:07:42,817 --> 01:07:44,108
I think that we got

884
01:07:44,142 --> 01:07:45,394
a pretty good one,

885
01:07:45,755 --> 01:07:47,006
nice and full.

886
01:07:47,948 --> 01:07:50,468
A couple of balls like your dear old dad.

887
01:07:50,504 --> 01:07:51,754
Or grandma...

888
01:07:54,765 --> 01:07:56,017
Yeah...

889
01:07:56,723 --> 01:07:59,198
Mum, can we hang this one on the tree?

890
01:08:00,942 --> 01:08:02,357
I remember when he made this.

891
01:08:06,350 --> 01:08:07,601
Second grade.

892
01:08:08,350 --> 01:08:10,228
Mrs Towns' class, I think.

893
01:08:10,714 --> 01:08:13,071
He was so proud of himself.

894
01:08:15,698 --> 01:08:17,113
Where do you want to put it?

895
01:08:18,368 --> 01:08:21,021
Up high.
So he can look out.

896
01:08:28,021 --> 01:08:29,272
Hey, they work.

897
01:08:33,875 --> 01:08:35,523
I'm gonna go check on my cookies.

898
01:09:00,084 --> 01:09:02,509
I found the passage you talked about.

899
01:09:02,520 --> 01:09:04,034
About stoning to death

900
01:09:04,070 --> 01:09:05,322
Deuteronomy, 22.

901
01:09:06,201 --> 01:09:08,545
But what about Sodom and Gommorah?

902
01:09:08,554 --> 01:09:12,624
God punishes the sin of homosexuality. How do you explain that?

903
01:09:12,658 --> 01:09:14,442
It's nice to see you too, Mary.

904
01:09:15,892 --> 01:09:17,141
What's this for?

905
01:09:17,200 --> 01:09:18,847
It's a roomish sale.

906
01:09:19,294 --> 01:09:21,417
All gay people have roomish too.

907
01:09:22,397 --> 01:09:25,165
So... What about Sodom and Gommorah?

908
01:09:26,064 --> 01:09:28,443
Many scholars think this sin was greed

909
01:09:28,461 --> 01:09:30,287
and not homosexuality.

910
01:09:30,323 --> 01:09:32,273
And it wasn't labeled homosexuality

911
01:09:32,274 --> 01:09:34,210
until years after it was written.

912
01:09:34,246 --> 01:09:38,568
Do you have answers for all these things just to justify being that way?

913
01:09:38,604 --> 01:09:41,131
You have answers to justify that it's wrong.

914
01:09:41,165 --> 01:09:43,193
I guess we're in an impass here.

915
01:09:44,607 --> 01:09:48,769
So you think it's ok to interpret the bible any way you want?

916
01:09:48,805 --> 01:09:53,754
No, of course not. But the bible was written and interpreted my mortal men.

917
01:09:53,790 --> 01:09:58,594
And many of those interpretations were reflections of the time and what they lived.

918
01:09:59,028 --> 01:10:03,001
So you feel completely free to question it?

919
01:10:03,012 --> 01:10:05,468
Because... I think it's blasphemous.

920
01:10:05,925 --> 01:10:08,572
I don't think God minds questions.

921
01:10:08,702 --> 01:10:12,200
He might not be thrilled with all our answers.

922
01:10:12,235 --> 01:10:15,858
I think blind faith is just as dangerous as none at all.

923
01:10:15,893 --> 01:10:18,253
I've never questioned my faith. I...

924
01:10:18,288 --> 01:10:20,252
I've never had reasons to.

925
01:10:20,287 --> 01:10:21,981
Sometimes to question it...

926
01:10:22,017 --> 01:10:24,752
helps you find a deeper faith.

927
01:10:26,536 --> 01:10:28,406
Bobby stopped coming here.

928
01:10:29,945 --> 01:10:31,644
I think the reason was...

929
01:10:32,103 --> 01:10:35,984
he couldn't never allow himself to feel worthy of God's love.

930
01:10:39,625 --> 01:10:41,201
And we didn't help.

931
01:10:42,276 --> 01:10:43,526
Mary...

932
01:10:44,247 --> 01:10:46,405
Have you ever heard about P-FLAG?

933
01:10:46,441 --> 01:10:50,584
It's a national organisation.
It's «Parents and friend of lesbians and gays».

934
01:10:50,618 --> 01:10:52,642
No, that's not for me.
They can help.

935
01:10:52,794 --> 01:10:55,784
You'd be able to see you're not so alone in this.

936
01:10:55,788 --> 01:10:56,839
Bye reverend.

937
01:10:56,840 --> 01:10:59,488
No.
There's a woman in Concord, Betty Lambert.

938
01:10:59,491 --> 01:11:00,743
You'll love her.

939
01:11:00,799 --> 01:11:03,264
She has a gay son in his 30s.

940
01:11:03,464 --> 01:11:06,375
I just had a few questions.
I don't need anything else.

941
01:11:06,410 --> 01:11:07,719
Just in case.

942
01:11:14,219 --> 01:11:16,628
It's true. There's a passage that says if children are

943
01:11:16,651 --> 01:11:19,750
disobedient they should be put to death.

944
01:11:19,786 --> 01:11:23,127
And I mean noone interprets that litteraly.

945
01:11:23,506 --> 01:11:25,315
What I'm saying is...

946
01:11:25,648 --> 01:11:28,609
if the church no longer interprets that litteraly,

947
01:11:28,645 --> 01:11:31,617
maybe homosexuality is also on that list.

948
01:11:31,653 --> 01:11:32,900
Well, maybe.

949
01:11:33,838 --> 01:11:35,777
Well, don't you think that's important?

950
01:11:36,382 --> 01:11:39,356
Mary, I wasn't that keen with the first interpretation of the bible.

951
01:11:39,392 --> 01:11:42,493
Well, it could mean that Bobby's in heaven.

952
01:11:42,529 --> 01:11:44,941
Yeah, well, he's not here.
Right?

953
01:11:44,942 --> 01:11:47,221
Why isn't that enough for you?

954
01:11:47,256 --> 01:11:48,809
Is it enough for you?!

955
01:11:50,457 --> 01:11:53,428
Does it make it any better?
Everything you're doing?

956
01:11:53,463 --> 01:11:55,126
What do you want me to do?

957
01:11:55,766 --> 01:11:58,698
Just forget about him? I can't do that. Maybe you can.

958
01:11:58,734 --> 01:12:01,457
I don't wont to forget about him, Mary.

959
01:12:01,459 --> 01:12:03,832
I want to remember him. Then I want to move on.
But I can't!

960
01:12:03,861 --> 01:12:05,112
Nobody can...

961
01:12:05,531 --> 01:12:08,062
Just walk away. Like you always do. You never deal with anything.

962
01:12:08,860 --> 01:12:10,112
Oh, I see...

963
01:12:10,406 --> 01:12:12,259
Maybe if I did, Bobby would still be alive today?

964
01:12:12,269 --> 01:12:14,971
Is that what you're saying? Is that what you think?

965
01:12:17,140 --> 01:12:18,601
You can answer me!

966
01:12:25,190 --> 01:12:26,481
Listen Mary...

967
01:12:26,972 --> 01:12:29,087
we both made mistakes. We all made mistakes. But it's done, he's gone.

968
01:12:29,123 --> 01:12:32,386
We're not gonna bring him back.

969
01:12:32,422 --> 01:12:33,672
I know that!!!

970
01:12:34,610 --> 01:12:36,663
Don't you know I know that?!

971
01:12:59,160 --> 01:13:01,068
Mary? I'm Betty.

972
01:13:01,069 --> 01:13:02,602
Hello.
Betty Lambert.

973
01:13:02,603 --> 01:13:04,486
I'm so glad you called.

974
01:13:04,522 --> 01:13:05,771
Please, come in.

975
01:13:06,884 --> 01:13:10,486
Reverend Whitsell told me what happened to Bobby.

976
01:13:10,522 --> 01:13:15,209
I can't imagine what it must feel like to lose a child like that...

977
01:13:15,280 --> 01:13:16,745
How long has it been?

978
01:13:19,094 --> 01:13:20,345
Six months...

979
01:13:20,443 --> 01:13:22,263
Six months and a few days.

980
01:13:25,078 --> 01:13:28,257
Our son was 14 when he came out to us.

981
01:13:28,293 --> 01:13:30,421
Isn't that a little young?

982
01:13:32,360 --> 01:13:33,886
I knew before then.

983
01:13:34,850 --> 01:13:37,509
We, mothers, we always know. Don't we?

984
01:13:38,354 --> 01:13:40,129
And you were ok with it?

985
01:13:40,165 --> 01:13:41,417
Oh god, no.

986
01:13:42,210 --> 01:13:48,173
I don't think any parent hears the news and thinks «Oh Goodie»!

987
01:13:50,449 --> 01:13:54,957
«Goodie» wasn't the first word that came to my mind.

988
01:13:55,762 --> 01:13:57,014
Mary...

989
01:13:57,611 --> 01:14:00,956
Why don't you come to a P-FLAG meeting with me?

990
01:14:01,057 --> 01:14:02,309
No, I'm...

991
01:14:02,890 --> 01:14:05,114
I'm not good at talking in groups.

992
01:14:05,638 --> 01:14:06,932
So don't talk.

993
01:14:07,904 --> 01:14:09,368
Just come and listen.

994
01:14:10,515 --> 01:14:14,246
I think you'll be shocked

995
01:14:14,261 --> 01:14:17,759
at how many people think they were the All-American-Family.

996
01:14:17,882 --> 01:14:19,133
I'll think about it.

997
01:14:24,309 --> 01:14:27,284
Eric was taunted in shcool all the time.

998
01:14:28,791 --> 01:14:31,051
Mary, you came.
I can't stay long.

999
01:14:31,052 --> 01:14:32,323
That's great. Come on in.

1000
01:14:32,324 --> 01:14:35,409
I was so furious, I went to the principal.

1001
01:14:35,445 --> 01:14:38,868
But he didn't do a thing to the boys who did it.

1002
01:14:39,418 --> 01:14:41,247
I was shocked by that.

1003
01:14:41,735 --> 01:14:44,343
I called them fruits, and ferries.

1004
01:14:44,965 --> 01:14:46,216
I didn't know.

1005
01:14:46,545 --> 01:14:49,723
It took me a long time to accept my Sam.

1006
01:14:50,588 --> 01:14:52,174
I think I alway knew.

1007
01:14:52,387 --> 01:14:57,291
I mean...
He asked for a pink Lacoste shirt for his birthday.

1008
01:14:57,528 --> 01:14:59,298
He was always different.

1009
01:14:59,752 --> 01:15:01,631
So he tells me he's gay...

1010
01:15:01,935 --> 01:15:04,481
What do I do?
I take him hunting.

1011
01:15:04,574 --> 01:15:07,745
There he is in his pink Lacoste shirt, he saw a deer

1012
01:15:07,782 --> 01:15:10,202
and yaled «Run, Bambi, run»

1013
01:15:11,130 --> 01:15:14,243
I always knew I could love my son

1014
01:15:14,277 --> 01:15:17,831
I never thought I could accept him. For who he is.

1015
01:15:18,670 --> 01:15:23,305
Well, when Gil told me she was gay. I insisted she see a psychiastrist.

1016
01:15:23,341 --> 01:15:26,904
But when that man suggested shock therapy,

1017
01:15:28,181 --> 01:15:32,226
I looked at my baby and, the hurt in her eyes.

1018
01:15:32,989 --> 01:15:34,658
I thought «This is crazy!»

1019
01:15:34,694 --> 01:15:37,017
Ah, hello reverend!
Please, come sit down.

1020
01:15:37,018 --> 01:15:38,996
Hi guys! Hi reverend!

1021
01:15:38,997 --> 01:15:41,042
Glad to see you're all here tonight.

1022
01:15:41,078 --> 01:15:42,348
As you may know,

1023
01:15:42,349 --> 01:15:46,307
reverend Whitsell is a pastor of the Metropolitan Community Church,

1024
01:15:46,343 --> 01:15:50,717
and he's proposing a gay freedom day to the Walnut Creek city council.

1025
01:15:51,405 --> 01:15:54,327
The city council vote happens in about a month.

1026
01:15:54,363 --> 01:15:57,481
and I would love all your support.

1027
01:16:14,073 --> 01:16:15,324
Mary!

1028
01:16:51,519 --> 01:16:52,769
Mary?

1029
01:16:53,959 --> 01:16:56,537
Mary, what are you doing out here?

1030
01:16:57,195 --> 01:17:01,054
You're soak. Come inside.
I didn't know where else to go.

1031
01:17:07,430 --> 01:17:08,955
I was sitting there,

1032
01:17:09,449 --> 01:17:11,461
listening to all their stories.

1033
01:17:12,450 --> 01:17:13,699
About how they...

1034
01:17:14,230 --> 01:17:15,828
always just knew...

1035
01:17:16,378 --> 01:17:18,854
their kid was different.

1036
01:17:20,499 --> 01:17:23,026
And then I had this dream tonight...

1037
01:17:23,919 --> 01:17:25,436
Bobby was a baby.

1038
01:17:32,394 --> 01:17:35,483
My son was always different.

1039
01:17:39,188 --> 01:17:41,784
His difference began at conception.

1040
01:17:44,474 --> 01:17:45,724
I knew that.

1041
01:17:46,832 --> 01:17:48,084
I felt it.

1042
01:17:49,999 --> 01:17:51,251
I know now...

1043
01:17:51,816 --> 01:17:53,928
why God didn't heal Bobby

1044
01:17:55,956 --> 01:17:57,689
He didn't heal him because...

1045
01:18:00,181 --> 01:18:03,292
there was nothing wrong with him.

1046
01:18:05,155 --> 01:18:06,403
I did this!

1047
01:18:08,287 --> 01:18:10,178
I killed my son!

1048
01:18:10,215 --> 01:18:12,875
You did not kill your son.
Bobby killed himself.

1049
01:18:13,314 --> 01:18:15,144
How could God forgive me?

1050
01:18:17,168 --> 01:18:19,059
How could Bobby forgive me?

1051
01:18:20,023 --> 01:18:21,704
God has already done the forgiving.

1052
01:18:22,017 --> 01:18:24,594
You have to forgive yourself.

1053
01:18:26,196 --> 01:18:27,551
I'm so sorry!

1054
01:18:30,619 --> 01:18:32,971
I'm so sorry!

1055
01:18:42,829 --> 01:18:44,080
Dear god.

1056
01:18:44,315 --> 01:18:47,722
Give us something we can live with

1057
01:18:47,739 --> 01:18:51,672
and pass on to others whose lives will never be the same because of a loved one's death.

1058
01:18:52,333 --> 01:18:54,714
I did not decide on brown eyes for myself.

1059
01:18:55,748 --> 01:18:59,274
And I now realize that Bobby didn't decide to be gay.

1060
01:19:00,058 --> 01:19:01,680
If you say in your word

1061
01:19:01,716 --> 01:19:04,795
that it is evil and wicked to be born with no arms,

1062
01:19:05,075 --> 01:19:07,310
and a child is born with no arms,

1063
01:19:08,142 --> 01:19:10,316
What is that child to think?

1064
01:19:16,710 --> 01:19:19,612
Our first order business is a proposal for

1065
01:19:19,613 --> 01:19:22,668
a gay freedeom day in Walnut Creek.

1066
01:19:22,703 --> 01:19:24,023
Attention, please.

1067
01:19:24,305 --> 01:19:26,366
We have a select group to debate the issue.

1068
01:19:26,401 --> 01:19:27,454
I don't see her.

1069
01:19:27,455 --> 01:19:30,041
...it's reverend Whitsell.

1070
01:19:30,320 --> 01:19:31,572
For one day,

1071
01:19:32,363 --> 01:19:36,413
for one day, people can celebrate their difference rather than feel shame.

1072
01:19:36,448 --> 01:19:38,182
They should be ashame!

1073
01:19:40,231 --> 01:19:44,541
There are so many other people who need our time and our attention.

1074
01:19:44,576 --> 01:19:46,552
Why are we wasting it on this?

1075
01:19:46,621 --> 01:19:49,903
Alright, alright. Let's have some order here please.

1076
01:19:49,938 --> 01:19:53,368
They spit in the face of decency and morality.

1077
01:19:55,198 --> 01:20:00,794
We cannot allow the fabric of our society to be torn apart.

1078
01:20:01,090 --> 01:20:02,419
Right?

1079
01:20:07,382 --> 01:20:10,981
I heard he tries to run for the Human Relations commission,

1080
01:20:11,021 --> 01:20:14,257
they picked that limped Whitsell instead.

1081
01:20:14,381 --> 01:20:16,151
They sent him a letter.

1082
01:20:16,259 --> 01:20:18,107
I said, 'We sing hymns at our church'.

1083
01:20:18,143 --> 01:20:20,248
What do you do with the hymns at your church?

1084
01:20:20,283 --> 01:20:22,803
So unless anyone else has anything else to add,

1085
01:20:22,839 --> 01:20:25,468
we'll adjourn to make our decision.

1086
01:20:25,504 --> 01:20:26,755
Mary?

1087
01:20:27,601 --> 01:20:28,851
Hey Dad!

1088
01:20:29,629 --> 01:20:30,881
Dad, get in here!

1089
01:20:31,489 --> 01:20:33,651
Dad hurry up! Mum's on TV.

1090
01:20:33,722 --> 01:20:35,890
Homosexuality is a sin.

1091
01:20:37,451 --> 01:20:40,534
Homosexuals are dommed to spend eternity in hell.

1092
01:20:41,915 --> 01:20:43,374
If they wanted to change,

1093
01:20:43,726 --> 01:20:46,799
they could be healed of their evil ways.

1094
01:20:46,834 --> 01:20:48,863
If they would turn away from temptation,

1095
01:20:49,463 --> 01:20:51,525
they could be normal again.

1096
01:20:51,601 --> 01:20:54,769
If only they would try and try harder,

1097
01:20:54,804 --> 01:20:56,438
if it doesn't work.

1098
01:20:56,489 --> 01:20:59,497
These are all the things I said to my son Bobby

1099
01:20:59,512 --> 01:21:01,446
when I found out he was gay.

1100
01:21:01,481 --> 01:21:05,106
When he told me he was homosexual,
my world fell apart.

1101
01:21:05,770 --> 01:21:07,392
I did everything I could

1102
01:21:07,739 --> 01:21:09,681
to cure him of his sickness.

1103
01:21:10,887 --> 01:21:12,899
8 months ago, my son...

1104
01:21:12,934 --> 01:21:15,133
jumped off a bridge and killed himself.

1105
01:21:16,812 --> 01:21:18,929
I deeply regret my lack of knowledge

1106
01:21:18,951 --> 01:21:21,639
about gay and lesbian people

1107
01:21:21,675 --> 01:21:26,228
I see that everything I was taught and told was bigotry and dehumanizing slender.

1108
01:21:27,638 --> 01:21:31,229
If I had investigated, beyond what I was told,

1109
01:21:31,309 --> 01:21:34,712
if I had just,
listened to my son,

1110
01:21:36,152 --> 01:21:38,445
when he poured his heart out to me...

1111
01:21:38,986 --> 01:21:41,342
I would not be standing here today with you

1112
01:21:41,675 --> 01:21:43,438
filled with regrets.

1113
01:21:43,651 --> 01:21:44,806
I believe

1114
01:21:44,807 --> 01:21:48,696
that God was pleased with Bobby's kind and loving spirit.

1115
01:21:48,732 --> 01:21:49,998
In god's eyes

1116
01:21:50,034 --> 01:21:52,757
kindness and love are what it's all about.

1117
01:21:53,113 --> 01:21:58,288
I didn't know that each time that I echoed eternal damnation for gay people...

1118
01:21:58,336 --> 01:22:01,048
each time I referred to Bobby as

1119
01:22:01,063 --> 01:22:04,488
sick and perverted and a danger to our children...

1120
01:22:04,890 --> 01:22:06,356
his self-esteem,

1121
01:22:06,898 --> 01:22:10,193
his sense of worth, were being destroyed.

1122
01:22:10,509 --> 01:22:11,864
and finally,

1123
01:22:11,897 --> 01:22:15,738
his spirit broke beyond repair.

1124
01:22:16,755 --> 01:22:22,386
It was not god's will that Bobby climbed over the side of a freeway overpass

1125
01:22:23,440 --> 01:22:25,240
and jumped directly into the path

1126
01:22:25,275 --> 01:22:29,544
of an 18 wheel truck which killed him instantly.

1127
01:22:30,418 --> 01:22:32,992
Bobby's death

1128
01:22:32,993 --> 01:22:37,442
was the direct result of his parents' ignorance and fear of the word gay.

1129
01:22:39,704 --> 01:22:41,412
He wanted to be a writer.

1130
01:22:43,536 --> 01:22:48,659
His hopes and dreams should not have been taken from him but they were.

1131
01:22:49,470 --> 01:22:50,721
They are children

1132
01:22:51,207 --> 01:22:52,459
like Bobby,

1133
01:22:53,132 --> 01:22:55,326
sitting in your congreggations,

1134
01:22:56,393 --> 01:22:57,973
unknown to you,

1135
01:22:58,006 --> 01:22:59,654
they will be listening,

1136
01:22:59,752 --> 01:23:01,702
as you echo «Amen».

1137
01:23:03,785 --> 01:23:06,847
And that will soon silence their prayers.

1138
01:23:07,780 --> 01:23:09,296
Their prayers to god,

1139
01:23:09,331 --> 01:23:10,687
for understanding,

1140
01:23:10,839 --> 01:23:12,193
and acceptance,

1141
01:23:12,308 --> 01:23:13,862
and for your love.

1142
01:23:15,802 --> 01:23:17,670
But your hatred, and fear,

1143
01:23:18,605 --> 01:23:22,738
and ignorance of the word «gay» will silence those prayers

1144
01:23:24,131 --> 01:23:25,382
So...

1145
01:23:27,717 --> 01:23:29,427
before you echo «Amen»

1146
01:23:29,811 --> 01:23:32,337
in your home and place of worship.

1147
01:23:32,844 --> 01:23:34,095
Think!

1148
01:23:34,181 --> 01:23:35,745
Think and remember.

1149
01:23:36,532 --> 01:23:38,352
A child is listening.

1150
01:23:44,360 --> 01:23:45,612
Oh, Mum...

1151
01:23:52,140 --> 01:23:53,728
Should be good.

1152
01:24:06,145 --> 01:24:07,396
He lost.

1153
01:24:08,033 --> 01:24:09,905
They voted the order install.

1154
01:24:09,940 --> 01:24:13,079
Well, he'll try again next year, right?

1155
01:24:13,912 --> 01:24:15,968
So, we're really going to San Francisco?

1156
01:24:16,003 --> 01:24:17,543
I think we have to.

1157
01:24:17,578 --> 01:24:19,657
I don't think that's a choice.

1158
01:24:20,492 --> 01:24:21,745
Well...

1159
01:24:21,964 --> 01:24:23,213
that's ironic.

1160
01:24:25,572 --> 01:24:26,824
Ok.

1161
01:24:36,620 --> 01:24:38,915
Are we late?
Just in time!

1162
01:24:40,071 --> 01:24:41,564
Jacky, is this everyone?

1163
01:24:41,599 --> 01:24:42,953
Oh! honey, no...

1164
01:24:43,215 --> 01:24:44,466
Come with me.

1165
01:24:44,512 --> 01:24:46,178
We have a special place for you.

1166
01:24:46,214 --> 01:24:47,463
Ok .

1167
01:25:32,401 --> 01:25:35,038
To all the Bobby and Janes out there...

1168
01:25:35,118 --> 01:25:39,516
I say these words to you as I would with my own precious children.

1169
01:25:39,552 --> 01:25:41,606
Please don't give up hope on life.

1170
01:25:41,641 --> 01:25:42,893
Or yourselves.

1171
01:25:43,506 --> 01:25:45,451
You're very special to me.

1172
01:25:45,486 --> 01:25:48,136
I'm working very hard to make this world

1173
01:25:48,137 --> 01:25:50,846
a better and safer place for you to live in.

1174
01:25:50,882 --> 01:25:53,566
Promise me you'll keep trying.

1175
01:25:53,663 --> 01:25:55,482
Bobby gave up on love.

1176
01:25:55,540 --> 01:25:57,364
I hope you won't.

1177
01:25:57,399 --> 01:25:59,484
You're always in my gods.

1178
01:26:01,901 --> 01:26:03,953
My name is Bobby Griffith.

1179
01:26:04,360 --> 01:26:06,562
I write this in hope that one day,

1180
01:26:06,596 --> 01:26:08,028
many years from now,

1181
01:26:08,393 --> 01:26:09,909
I would be able to go back

1182
01:26:09,945 --> 01:26:11,782
and remember what my life was like,

1183
01:26:11,817 --> 01:26:14,476
when I was a young and confused adolescent,

1184
01:26:14,512 --> 01:26:18,600
desperately trying to understand myself in the world I live in

1185
01:26:18,636 --> 01:26:20,653
The other reason I write this,

1186
01:26:20,689 --> 01:26:22,870
so long after I died,

1187
01:26:22,906 --> 01:26:25,819
others may have a chance to read about me,

1188
01:26:25,854 --> 01:26:28,982
and see what my life as a young person was like.

1189
01:27:35,882 --> 01:27:38,991
On December 6th 1995, Mary Griffith testified before

1190
01:27:39,010 --> 01:27:42,035
members of the Congress of the United States.

1191
01:27:42,063 --> 01:27:45,706
Her tireless work protecting the rights of gay and lesbian youth

1192
01:27:45,721 --> 01:27:48,838
has established her as a major force in the fight for human rights.

1193
01:27:50,499 --> 01:27:53,627
Before you echo "Amen" in your home or place of worship,

1194
01:27:53,644 --> 01:27:56,722
think and remember. A child is listening. - Mary Griffith.

1195
01:27:59,193 --> 01:28:04,574
In loving memory of
Bobby Griffith and Leroy Aarons